There is only one person in this world who will know you your entire life and that’s good ‘ole You. From birth to death, you are your only human companion. Not your parents, your partner, your kids, your friends…no one will know you your entire life. Until you fully commit to yourself, you cannot fully commit yourself to another. So, marry yourself first.
How much do you love yourself? Are you critical about how you look? Do you lack confidence to achieve what you want in life? Do you ever find yourself wishing you were different in some way? How can you ask others to love and accept you as you are if you haven’t done that for yourself? If you are still unkind to you, you are the place to start.
In my new book, I offer several practices to transform false beliefs about yourself into healthy beliefs. I encourage you to write down a few realistic ways you’d like to feel about yourself — something attainable. For example, you may want more confidence. Write that down in this format…“I am confidence”. This what we call a mantra — a Sanskrit word for positive affirmations that help motivate or inspire you. Mantras usually start with “I am” — something we say every time we introduce ourselves. It’s no coincidence that our names signify our identity and how “I am” precedes that identity. If we speak something into the present moment using an “I am” mantra, overtime it becomes our new identity — just like our name.
If you’ve already picked up my book — The Paper Tiger Syndrome: How to Liberate Yourself from the Illusion of Fear — this is a good time to remind you to keep up your mantra practice and if the book hasn’t made it to you yet, I can’t wait to hear how you’ll be using this practice for yourself! This practice is also something I demonstrate on my YouTube page. Check it out and share your comments there! I love to hear how it’s going!
Stay true to you.
xo,
Rebecca A. Ward, LMFT, SEP, PCC
Founder, the Iris Institute
Speaker | Licensed Therapist | Executive Coach